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Navigating Grief, Thanksgiving, and Wedding Planning: Finding Gratitude in Every Moment

Thanksgiving table preparation with the placement of a menu card and a placecard

The Thanksgiving holiday is a time to gather with loved ones, reflect on our blessings, and create memories that last a lifetime. But when someone dear to us is no longer here, this season can bring a mix of emotions—gratitude, sadness, joy, and even longing.

This year, I’m walking through my first Thanksgiving without my Daddy. While my heart feels heavy, I’m choosing to focus on the beautiful memories we shared and the lessons he left me. Grief is not linear, and it’s okay to feel everything all at once. Whether you’re missing a parent, grandparent, or someone close to you, know that you’re not alone.

As a wedding planner, I often see couples navigating grief during their wedding planning journey. Weddings, like holidays, are milestones that can highlight the absence of loved ones. If this resonates with you, here are some ways to embrace the emotions, honor their memory, and still find joy in your celebrations.

1. Create Space for Your Feelings

Grief doesn’t have a timeline, and it’s okay to feel emotional while planning your big day or celebrating the holidays. Give yourself permission to cry, laugh, or take quiet moments to reflect. Journaling or talking to someone you trust can help process those emotions.

2. Honor Their Memory in Special Ways

Incorporating a loved one’s memory into your wedding or Thanksgiving traditions can be healing. Some ideas include:

  • At Thanksgiving: Light a candle at the dinner table, share a toast in their honor, or prepare their favorite dish as part of your meal.

  • For Your Wedding: Include a photo table, wear something that belonged to them, or reserve an empty seat at your ceremony in their memory.

3. Surround Yourself with Supportive People

Whether it’s Thanksgiving dinner or wedding planning, having a solid support system can make all the difference. Share your feelings with family and friends, and lean on those who uplift you. If you’re working with a wedding planner, let them know your story—they can help you incorporate meaningful details into your day.

4. Focus on Gratitude

Gratitude doesn’t erase grief, but it can coexist with it. This Thanksgiving, I’m holding onto the love my Daddy gave me and the lessons I’ve learned from him. In the same way, as you plan your wedding, think about the love and joy your marriage will bring into your life.

5. Take It One Step at a Time

Both holidays and weddings can feel overwhelming when emotions are running high. Remember to pace yourself. You don’t have to plan every detail in one day, and you certainly don’t have to have all the answers. Trust the process and give yourself grace.

6. Finding the Joy in the Journey

Grief is a testament to love—a reminder of how deeply we care for the people who’ve touched our lives. While this Thanksgiving and your wedding planning journey may have bittersweet moments, they’re also opportunities to celebrate the love that surrounds you and the new memories you’re creating.

To anyone who’s grieving this season, I see you, and I’m sending you love. Embrace the joy, the tears, and the gratitude, knowing that it’s all part of your unique journey.

Happy Thanksgiving from my heart to yours! 🧡

If you’re navigating wedding planning and need guidance, visit DejanaeEvents.com for resources and support.

Photo Credit - Jesus Santos Photography

Desiree Dent